I don't know if I am posting in the right place, so if I'm not, then please accept my apologies.
I recently met a man I really like who has MS. He is a wonderful man and I feel really lucky that we got the chance to get together. Been about two months now.
We just started getting intimate a couple of weeks ago. The issue we are having is that he can obtain an erection during foreplay, but once it gets down to actual penetration and making love, he can't seem to maintain it. He's told me he's very heat sensitive, so when things "heat up" it takes alot out of him. He has had to make sure the window in his room is open, and that the ceiling fan above his bed is running to keep him cool, which is not a big deal for me.
The other night we were just playing around after him losing his erection again, and this time I performed fellatio, and even THAT didn't really help. He said he enjoyed it, but it didn't have the...."desired effect", lol.
We tried again last night, with pretty much the same effect. This time, I asked if it was me. He seemed really shocked that I would even ask. But if there are any other women on here that have gone through this experience, you know what it does to YOUR psyche, not to mention your partners.
I've never ever dealt with the issue of erectile dysfunction in a completely healthy partner, so aside from the standard remedies(take the pressure off the act, reassure, and communicate)I'm not sure how else to deal with it, or what will help. He does smoke, drinks alcohol, and right or wrong, smokes the occasional joint....both because he just likes pot, and because he says it does help with some of the discomfort from the disease.
He is currently on Copaxone injections for the MS, and has been for about two and a half, maybe three months.
I really really like this guy, and want to help him all I can to deal with this, not to mention to support and help him deal with the issues from the disease in general. He was diagnosed several years ago with recurring remitting ms, but says he never has had any serious issues from the disease until around February of this year. The attack he had then wound him up in the hospital.
He is struggling with the changes all of this has wrought, so right now he is mentally and physically fatigued as well.
I hope someone has had the same experiences and can help us learn how to work through this. All answers and suggestions would be very appreciated, including if someone can list side effects of Copaxone? I suggested he may want to look into that as well. As far as the drug goes, even I can see the difference its made for him, it seems to be working really well as far as effectiveness goes. I see a big difference in his mobility and fine motor control since he's been on it, even in the short period of time that I have known him.