I think sometimes family and friends don't know what to say. How would some of them respond if you said "hey, I wobble like a drunk, have some incontinence, can't feel anything below my waist, and my drugs make me think suicidal thoughts". I think family and friends want to know and believe you are fine, they don't want to hear about the ugly parts. That somehow it would be to uncomfortable for them. I know it sucks, but I've also had to learn how to say hey I need some help because I'm having trouble doing certain things.