Infidelity because of MS?

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Re: Infidelity because of MS?

Postby Anonymoose » Tue Aug 27, 2013 6:34 am

mpalla wrote:God bless you Nutfin! Yes...the cycle of abuse and misuse is evident. My husband of 12 years and the man who raised my son...and I took care of, straightened up his past is leaving. He was great the first few months after original diagnosis is unhappy...when I am sick I may sleep half the day and me not working. I am on a minimal sick leave insurance and he thinks I am having fun getting a check? Are you effing kidding me? I never imagined days before out anniversary he'd say he was leaving state. Thank god I have my family and few friends. You are commended for your devotion even in the face of turmoil and illness. I thought I had that...kicked myself for a few days for having ms...then cried and had an epiphany. You can polish a turd...but it's still a turd. I will carry on....have to for my son. I got this!

So sorry about your situation. Makes that old Kenny Rogers song play in my picked a fine time to leave me Lucile! Your attitude is great and will carry you through. Be strong (like we have a choice). We can do anything for our kids. :)
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Re: Infidelity because of MS?

Postby mpalla » Fri Aug 30, 2013 1:49 am

Thanks. He is having midlife crisis. I don't need the stress. I am doing. Wednesday found out thyroid issue is hashimotos now. yep...can't win. Keeping on...some days it's tough. Real tough. Thanks any that song is stuck in my head along with the gambler. Lol
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Re: Infidelity because of MS?

Postby amberfer » Thu Dec 19, 2013 9:26 pm

nuftin wrote:Ok, ok. I am weak. I understand that. I need to move on. I get that too. But how? I have loved this woman for so long, I have been doing MS related events for so long, spending every waking moment being in love for so long.... I signed up for the MS Challenge Walk in DC again this year. So is she. How am I going to be there and not have a high school like melt down? I may have lost my soulmate, but how do I keep going? I supposed these are questions for another forum, but has anybody here had to make that decision? I don't have MS, but it is a VERY major part of my life, and I don't want that to change. I love volunteering at the Texas MS 150 bike event. I love the DC Challenge Walk. Heck, I even love the little, local Addison 5k in the spring. I guess I just feel lost, like I want to cry, have a nervous breakdown and throw up pretty much all the time lately. But on the bright side, I have lost 45 pounds in the past 2 months. It's just really, really hard to think about life if the only reason I want to live isn't there anymore.....

Your interest and experience with your girlfriend's MS are completely unrelated to her infidelity! You ask how you move on...I would say, counseling, not an MS board! I hope your healing process is quick.
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Re: Infidelity because of MS?

Postby ScottSD » Sat Jul 11, 2015 10:34 pm

Dude, get out now! This is your excuse. There must be some reason you haven't married her after 12 years. That was a good decision. Trust is the absolute most important thing in a relationship. You don't have that anymore. Let me predict the future. Her MS progresses and after she works through every guy at work, she forces you to get married. You spend the rest of your life wondering if she is telling you the truth while you wait on her hand and foot. Don't be a doormat. I have been with my wife for 10 years, married for 8, and diagnosed for 3. I have never considered or even thought of cheating. That is love and respect. Sounds like you still want to be involved with the MS community. That is a good thing. But you need to find some hobbies instead of being a doormat. You volunteer for the MS Bike 150, why not train and ride in it?

You ask, how will you move on.....This is the time to man up. The husband of my 83 year old neighbor died a few years ago and guess what........she has a boyfriend now. I'm sure you will get over it soon enough.

Sorry if my analysis sounds rude. Sometimes the truth hurts. Good luck.
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