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no more-there's nothing left

Postby cas » Thu Feb 02, 2017 1:47 pm

I am so weak. I can hardly get to the bathroom. I use a wheel chair outside apartment. Diagnosed 20 years ago. I feel I have no options. My left side is practically useless. I have bad drop foot and fingers curl. I can hardly hold a fork. I can only imagine what it must sound like to my SUPPORTIVE spouse. I can barely move. Practically no stability. If your a caregiver/spouse do you understand when I say that there is nothing left? I have tried everything. How can I live with no energy? I have no reason to get out of bed other than to struggle to the bathroom. I just can't do anything. I have no energy to occupy my mind. Because of my physical abilities, I can hardly do anything. It is exhausting trying to do everything - shower (1 -2x a week), easier not eating b/c hard to get something out of fridge and into microwave. I could go on and on but just sitting here pecking at keyboard is exhausting. Do you caregiver understand when I say no more its time?
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby ElliotB » Fri Feb 03, 2017 3:41 am

" I feel I have no options"

I know you feel that you have no options, many of us have felt this way, but what most of us find is that there are ALWAYS options if you want them. Are you looking for advice/options or just to vent?
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby seanlanefuller » Sun Feb 05, 2017 3:38 pm

I'm so glad you have a supportive spouse. I do as well.
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby cas » Mon Feb 06, 2017 3:14 pm

ElliotB wrote:" I feel I have no options"

I know you feel that you have no options, many of us have felt this way, but what most of us find is that there are ALWAYS options if you want them. Are you looking for advice/options or just to vent?

I guess looking for options but I can't imagine you have anything to say (and I do wish you did). I'm far from rich. I just don't see a way to live. Does society just expect me to sit on the couch all day?
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby jimmylegs » Mon Feb 06, 2017 3:40 pm

sent you a short list of y/n/short answer questions a couple of days ago cas. might be something manageable in there :)
odd sx? no dx? check w/ dietitian
DRI=MINIMUM eg bit.ly/1vgQclQ
99% don't meet these. meds/lifestyle can affect levels
status can be low in ms & other cond'ns
'but my results are normal'. typical panels don't test all
deficits occur in 'normal' range
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby ElliotB » Mon Feb 06, 2017 6:45 pm

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”

― Henry Ford

I truly hope you understand the meaning of the above quote. If you want to improve, you have to really, REALLY want it, bad, because for the most part only those who really, really, really want something, especially something difficult, are likely to get it. Your future, successes or failures, are truly up to you.


"Does society just expect me to sit on the couch all day?"

Whether you sit on your couch all day or not is up to you. You are the only one making that choice. The bottom line is that 'society' does not really care.


"I'm far from rich."

Well, many rich people have and have had MS, and their money did not buy them much of anything. Taking care of yourself in every way possible including exercise does not require huge sums of money.



"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."

Lao Tzu

If you are ready to begin your journey, I am happy to offer my assistance. which will start with some basic questions - what type of diet do you follow, are you on any medications, do you take supplements, are you gluten free, are you overweight, do you do any type of exercise at all?


Just to be clear, there are people who have been in your shoes and have improved. But it will take hard work (very hard work) on your part, determination and time and lots of patience. And did I mention hard work and determination? One more quote:

"If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me."
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Re: no more-there's nothing left

Postby jimmylegs » Mon Feb 06, 2017 8:34 pm

odd sx? no dx? check w/ dietitian
DRI=MINIMUM eg bit.ly/1vgQclQ
99% don't meet these. meds/lifestyle can affect levels
status can be low in ms & other cond'ns
'but my results are normal'. typical panels don't test all
deficits occur in 'normal' range
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