My mother has had MS for as long as I can remember, but her condition only got bad over the last 3 years. She now needs a mental frame to get around the house and basically has a hard time doing anything. My husband and I and our 1 year old son live with her so I can look after the household chores and cooking, but it's really taking it's toll on me. Since my son was born, with looking after him, my mother and the house, my weight has dropped by more than 6 kilos. I'm gaunt and ill looking even though I eat more than my fair load. If this isn't enough my mother has had a complete change of character over the last few months. It's like the more demanding she sees the baby being the more she is too (example - I was feeding my son and halfway through she began complaining she was hungry too and wanted something immediately. When I told her I'd make her something as soon as the baby was finished she got very angry and demanded food then and there). She's always in the mood for arguements and I'm physically and emotionally exhausted. My friends say she's just angry with herself because she sees how tired I am but can't help, but if thats the case why would she want to make it worst by being more demanding too.
Right now we can't afford extra help for her which is why we are all living together.
How do I deal with this? I don't want to isolate her but she doesn't appreciate anything I do and it is never enough. She wants me to put her needs before the needs of the baby.