There are studies that show the benefit of nursing. It must have something to do with the hormones that seem to be helpful. I chose to nurse for a long time before the benefits were shown and would have nursed my daughter longer if the docs didn't want me back on meds. (I had been on Avonex before my first pregnancy, which you have to stop taking for 3 mos before even trying and then it took me 8 cycles to get pregnant which for me was almost a year). Between the two pregnancies and now I take copaxone, which you can stay on until you get pregnant, and the breastfeeding info came out around that pregnancy so the doctor just told me to tell him when I had weaned my son and he would get me back on the meds.
I guess that answers your question about my diagnosis and pregnancy. I was diagnosed at age 24, first sought medical help for symptoms at 21 and had my first child at 29 my second at 33. I am now 35.
I have relapsing remitting MS. Although I am beginning to wonder if I am heading into secondary progressive as i am never symptom free. Compared to what I read here though, I can't complain. I don't have and never have had fatigue, brain fog or other cog issues. (knock on wood) Two episodes of diploplia (double vision) which resolved completely. (both prior to kids) I can't run anymore, I always hold hand rails when going up and down stairs and all my physical probs are in my right side (foot drop, fine motor in my right hand, constant pins in needles in my right calf) except the bladder which I don't think you can assign to a right or left side.
As to trying again....I had always thought of 35 as the latest I would have children, because of MS. Now I am not sure about sticking to the deadline. My husband has made having a venography/ballooning procedure a prerequisit for trying again and unfortunately things there are not moving as quickly as I would like them to. So I will just say, I haven't completely ruled it out.
If you can't get anyone to talk with you about IVF, I can try to connect you with one of my friends.