Not exactly the way I wanted to join the forum & introduce myself, but I had to talk to someone!
I am a retired military member (4yrs), diagnosed with MS approx 8 years ago. I still work for the military & have a very stressful, at times, job. It has been more stressful than usual because of what I'm involved in. on top of that, there are quite a few more issues adding more stress lately, none more than what has been generated - and increasing - at home.
My son is a deployed Combat Medic. The 2 remaining kids, girls, are still at home. The oldest just graduated high school. The youngest is 14 and in the midst of a severe case of 'teenager'. They are both slobs, the youngest infinitely more so. I call the youngest 'Hurricane Alli' because she leaves a trail of food/trash, etc behind her. She refuses to do chores, disobeys, had a Gauge put in her ear against our orders, lies, 7 recently started dating a 17yo. although her mom & I agreed she would not date until at LEAST 15yo, her mom is now defending her dating the 17yo. I am currently on a business trip - before I left on the trip, I found her and her boyfriend snuggled under a blanket in a downstairs beddroom...not 'doing' anything (yet). I imediately wanted an end to the dating, but her mom is fighting meon this.
The bottom line is my family is selfish, disrespectful, disobedient, messy, make little effort to BE a family, refuse to make any effort to change, & my wife just insisted that I see someone because I am the only one with a problem.
I just spent the last week trying to run a conference with headaches, massive continuous leg pain (they always ache from the knees down) to the point I am limping, nauseated and trying not to be sick half the time, and my speech starting to slur slighly. To be blunt, the stress is exacerbating my MS, making it hard to function as well as I should. As much as i love my family, worse yet, I feel like I am the only one concerned or trying to resolve the problem. I am TIRED, frustrated, stressed, and do not know what to do.
Any recommendations on ways to deal with stress would be appreciated. The Conference ends tomorrow, and I have decided not to go home right away. Before I go home to that stressful place, I plan to go somewhere - maybe a beach - to take a day to try to relax. I need to find a way to prevent the stress level from getting this high again in the future. About the only thing i can think of right now, since it seems no one at home has any intention of changing / helping, is to just stop caring and let them do whatever they want, no more trying to enforce rules & 'fight the fight' by myself. I even want to hear if the family is right & the problem is just me. THANKS!