Good questions. I always carry with me in my car a plastic pee container to use to relieve myself if I need to. I don't like wearing pads, but the best I have found are the boxer type disposable underwear made by RealFit and available on Amazon:http://www.amazon.com/Depend-Underwear- ... ds=realfit
I no longer work, but accidents were a problem for me when I did. I always wore dark pants in case I was caught unprepared and wanted to hide an accident as best as possible.
I would suggest consulting with a neuro-urologist. There are drugs available to help reduce accidents, and learning how to self-catheritize would give you more time between toilet trips as you are then able to FULLY empty the bladder. I am scheduled to receive my first botox bladder injection next week, a procedure that has been FDA approved in the US for over-active bladder issues related to nerve damage in the spine and CNS.
I use anticholinergic drugs to help reduce accidents, but the side-effects are a problem for me (drugs like detrol, tolterodine, etc). I am looking forward to stopping these next week. And, I am looking forward to being much less tied to a bathroom, especially as related to travel and leaving the house.
Good luck, you're not alone,
(I'm a 57yo male).