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Postby REDHAIRANDTEMPER » Wed Feb 21, 2007 9:27 am

okay i think its good we have those things put on here for information.....i always like it when iformation is put on here for me to know things....thank you harry for giving out that iformation....as for six six....hope you start to feel better here soon...it will get better in time....and ya know we are hear to listen or read i mean...lol.....to give each other support when needed......for the argument about the fact being on here..maybe they dont like it cause it shows that sometimes it is just like that..THE TRUTH..that unforantly with some people it is like that....its great to have everyone who does stay together thru this but with most it isnt like that...i hope i end up being the one on the good side and not be left cause of this..however i know realisticly that it could go either way.....just my opion but keep your head up there six six

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Postby Lyon » Wed Feb 21, 2007 9:59 am

Thanks SIXSIX.

You know far more about the situation than any of us could but I get the idea that she never specifically told you that MS is the reason that she wanted to break up and at face value it sounds like her wanting to sow some wild oats with her girlfriend might be a big part of the decision. Immature considering that she has two kids to be concerned about. Not good, but you see it a lot even without MS in the picture.

Out of curiousity, knowing the situation better than anyone, what do you think of her right now? Does she disgust you, do you sympathize with her to some degree?

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Postby SIXSIX » Wed Feb 21, 2007 10:52 am

Yes I feel bad for her because I feel that this is a choice she never wanted to fully make. Even now she is still talking to me and being respectful. I'm more upset that I had to be the problem and to bring her down and make her feel ashamed about being with me. It makes me care about her even more. I would like to know if there is a dating site set up for people with ms that can start meting new people who understand each other.
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Postby gwa » Wed Feb 21, 2007 11:48 am

sixsix,

If there is a chapter of the MS Society in your area, you could go to some of their meetings. You would definitely be with people that understand.

I had never thought of it as a place to pick up dates, but it is as good as any bar and cheaper.

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Postby SIXSIX » Wed Feb 21, 2007 12:03 pm

I agree I really enjoy just being around people. I mostly enjoyed being around my girlfriend the most. I just have to continue to pray and alow the lord to do wonderful things in my life. :D
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Postby Lyon » Wed Feb 21, 2007 2:08 pm

SIXSIX wrote:Yes I feel bad for her because I feel that this is a choice she never wanted to fully make. Even now she is still talking to me and being respectful. I'm more upset that I had to be the problem and to bring her down and make her feel ashamed about being with me.
Thanks for the info SIXSIX. I think you're being too hard on yourself and the fact that you have MS.

No matter how you look at the situation, you're better off without her and getting on with your life and it sounds like you're doing a pretty good job of getting it together.

We do have some lovely and available ladies on this site but it seems their hearts all belong to Ian.....even most of the married ones.
He's kind of the resident heart-throb around here you know......at least to hear him tell it :roll:
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Postby REDHAIRANDTEMPER » Wed Feb 21, 2007 2:11 pm

Dang six six didnt even look but just now realized ya are in wisconsin also...sorry a little slow this afternoon...lol....go figure takes me this long to notice something that is right under your name......lol..

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Postby thinkingoutloud86 » Wed Feb 21, 2007 3:41 pm

harry...you sound like a real "stand up" person...marg is lucky...there was a time where i thought this woman may have been "the one", but we had other problems before the disease ever came on...unfortunately, it was one of those situations where two people who genuinely cared about each other were unable to get along...the good news is that i started dating again several months ago...

sixsix...although we only know a little bit of what went on between you two, it doesn't sound like this woman was completely "bagage free" herself...also, just something else to throw out there...when someone leaves us, it can really push buttons where we start putting ourselves down for our faults and putting the other person almost on a pedestal...i wouldn't be surprised if she had other faults that you haven't mentioned...

every person has to make their own decision about the dating...when they are ready...what type of person they are looking...etc...just to let you know what i did (by the way, we're similar in age...i am a 30 something year old guy), i didn't start dating right away after i became sick...i found that although it would have been nice to have the companionship of another person, i needed more reliable and stable relationships first...i broadened my circle of friends...with a special emphasis on developing friendships with reliable and trustworthy women...puting one's self out on a limb when dating is hard enough itself...doing it while still reeling from the loss of another person can be that much harder...it can be a bit riskier...i have developed wonderful friendships with several women, that i feel i can count on for most anything...now that i have a more stable circle of support, it makes it that much easier to take the risk with dating...that way, even if someone shoots me down, i still have people in my life that care for me and are not leaving...as i said previously, i have been dating again for the past several months...it hasn't always worked out and it is not easy...but, even when things went wrong, i wasn't alone and had people to turn to...

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Postby bobert » Wed Feb 21, 2007 4:11 pm

i thought reading this I would throw in my two cents woth into the fire...

When I got diagnosed my long-term girlfriend (5yrs) left me.. i was crippled in bed and feeling just like yourself 66...

then one mad rainy afternoon in England I decided to visit this friend who i had been chatting to for an age on myspace... The fact she lived in New York and 4000 miles away i guess it could be looked on as crazy... but i like to think of crazy as brave...

anyways.. blah blah blah.. cutting a long story short.. what started as a (slow) walk through central park has ended in us getting married 2 weeks ago in Ohio and expecting out first baby in September.. we now live in Sussex England, we are both 27...

If I was to find a moral of the story.. it would be to use MS as a ways of being brave in situations you normally wouldnt... like 2 yrs ago I would have travel 4000 miles to meet someone i only knew through text..



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Postby SIXSIX » Wed Feb 21, 2007 5:45 pm

problem is I look like im wasted when I walk and I fall frequently I need to cure this disease. See what Gods reward is in the end Have eternal life in Heaven.
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Postby Lyon » Wed Feb 21, 2007 6:08 pm

I forgot you were this guy SIXSIX:
I went to the mayo clinic last week they told me I have SPMS and that I will be in a wheelchair in a year. I'm 26 years old please help.
Have you noticed progression of your symptoms since your first post on Oct 23? Have you considered investigating clinical trials and maybe entering if you find one you like?

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Postby bobert » Thu Feb 22, 2007 3:27 pm

Mr. 66

yep, looking drunk when walking is what gets me too.. I have RR MS and I still cant walk properly without looking at the ground, because yeah I will fall... and that oh so romantic moment of walking through Central Park with my now wife was hindered with me having to lean on her, let alone me explaining I am some what occasionally impotent over a coffee at a starbucks..

I would be interested to hear what you are doing to try and combat your physical troubles.

I read a lot of literature when I was really bad and every book found its way back to diet. I made a very strict decision at the time to go strict vegan. I added with this b complex vitamins, magnesium and evening primrose oil.. I have recently come back from seeing my specialist who said my progess has been remarkable in his eyes.. I am not saying this to rub it in, merely to try and inspire..

I have found with myself the less I think of being an MS sufferer the stronger I become..

We all lose something along the way with MS, whether through heart-brake or materialistic. but the thing you will never lose is your heart and soul. you just have to watch the news and im sure America here can be like in England but in 10 minutes you will find countless examples of saying "Thank f**k that was not me or someone in my family"..

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Postby SIXSIX » Tue Feb 27, 2007 6:59 pm

Well I'm still alive and feel great so I'm going to ride this out all I need is my mind to keep me Happy. Oh and I would not have made it through this if it was not for the grace of God. :D :o
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Postby Arron » Sat Mar 03, 2007 4:01 pm

sixsix, you have shared a very vulnerable moment with us and I want to thank you for being brave enough to do so. I am of course very happy you're feeling better, and at the same time acknowledge that what you've been through is *so* difficult. You sound like an amazing person with an equally amazing spirit, and we can all tell that it is a *pleasure* to interact with someone like you. In life, I have found that often tends to dominate physical ailments.

In any case, you are among friends here. Thanks for opening up.
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