I've worked in medical settings and had to see my own share of doctors since these problems began- including some unrelated orthopedic problems, I've seen like a dozen doctors in the last couple of years. In my experience, neurologists are the bottom of the barrel in terms of people skills. One of mine was the bottom of the barrel, period.
I think the doctors who are good with people may be socialized into other specialties. I have no doubt that it takes a lot of intelligence and analytical skills to be a neurologist, but there doesn't seem to be any screening for empathy or lack thereof.
Finding a doctor WITH MS is a pretty cool idea.
Maybe it's just depressing to be a neurologist and work with people with MS. From what I can figure, they are decent at figuring out who has MS, and who doesn't- and they can write prescriptions for for symptomatic relief or one of the ABCR drugs. They have been well-trained at all that.
But ask them anything about anything interesting, or creative- such as diet, supplements, off-label prescriptions (e.g., LDN), antibiotics, etc., and they seem 1) incredibly uninformed about what goes on in their supposed field of expertise, and 2) unwilling to do anything out of the box, all the while reluctantly admitting that we don't know much about MS.
Anyway, good luck to you in finding a good neuro, and if you come up with any tips, let us all know- I am so irritated with my experience that I tend to spew out this tirade at the slightest provocation.
I'm going to a University MS Clinic at the end of October, and the guy I'm supposed to see is supposedly great. I'm going in with an optimistic attitude.