Wanted to thank you all for the suggestions and sage advice. I feel like I'm back at school, taking a crash course in chemistry. I'm learning more here than at the Drs. office, that's for sure!
Jimmylegs- I found a magnesium supplement that hubby takes before retiring called Natural Calm. It's a powder which you add to warm water. He's been on it for a week, and we've noticed a decline in the severity of the spasms. Now they're more like "twitches" and he's able to sleep thru them. He's taking tylenol pm for pain, and that's taking the edge off. We're sleeping so much better.
I asked some dear friends to become our "MJ mentors"...and although we haven't availed ourselves of their help...we know it's there when needed.
Lew- thanks for your heartfelt words. I'm trying hard to be supportive and loving and not a major b+&ch, but quite frankly, this has thrown our world into a tailspin. My husband's 44, in the prime of his career, successful, talented and I just assumed so much about our future. There's just a big question mark over everything now. I know these are "newbie feelings," and we'll adjust. I admire everyone posting here, and even the folks just lurking, (like I was for months) looking for answers.
Peace to us all,