Hey there Mrs. G
This thread has turned out really cool, you are so right - "yeah, so you have ms, but let's get on with the important stuff in life...!"
And right again, it has turned into a pregnancy thread - but it is really lovely that after offering support, most folks have latched onto the life-affirming issue that you have mentioned - something many of us have struggled with. Women generally feel a certain solidarity on this issue - if we haven't gone through it ourselves, we know someone who has and we really want to help.
I am so terribly sorry about your miscarriages - it is so heartbreaking. I can relate to the ouch of getting your tubes blown with dye under x-ray - I was lucky in that mine was done under GA, but I have a couple of friends who went through it with me holding their hands - the things women have to suffer through.
I am sure you know more about fertility than you ever wanted to, but I believe that it is possible to get at least one shot at IVF on the NHS - and you could use ICCSI as well to deal with you husband's possible issue - they start with nose spray to induce temporary menopause so that tyey can take over your menstrual cycle, then you progress to daily hormone shots, ultrasound scans to monitor the development of eggs, egg retrieval, then instead of just 'in-vitro' fertilization, they take one viable sperm (used for blokes with poor sperm count, or a high number of abnormal sperm) and inject it into the egg, so ensuring fertilization. After about three or four days, they impant the embryo back into you. I was looking at fertility treatment myself when I found myself pregnant (astonishing!), and being an RN, I have done the daily shots for 3 of my friends, two of whom had successful pregnancies following IVF and ICCSI.
While being overweight can definitely contribute to fertility issues, I know plenty of folks who are a bit on the heavy side who have had children. It seems a bit of a mystery, sometimes they can't even pinpoint an exact cause, so it is hard to correct it. But it is still a positive thing in terms of your general health and ms to lose a little weight if you think it is necessary (I could lose a little myself!). I really wish you much success with this - if you want to chat, please feel free to pm me. My only 'pearl of wisdom' is to keep chasing the dream and to fight through the medical establishment until you get treatment you are happy with (for fertility and ms), and to keep trying for a baby for as long as you feel able to. The chances are good that it will work out fine (there is excellent treatment available for most problems), but it takes a lot of emotional strength, even from your partner, so hang in there, you have a goal and are well on the way to achieving it!
All the best - with ms and your 'project'.
Punchy - all the best to you too!