MrsGeorge wrote:This has turned into quite a debate. I have been avoiding it because it is a sensitive topic for me. The truth is I get frustrated at people who have children without thinking ahead or planning it or making a real decision. Having a baby is something that Adam and I have wanted for years and something we made a well-discussed decision about 3 years ago, before MS was ever anything other than a horrible thing that happened to other people. We re-made that decision after my dx. I put trying on hold earlier this year while my health was poor even though it broke my heart and we are just recently starting to try again.
Being a mother is what I have always wanted to be, more than the career that I love or anything else. Should having MS stop me? Now that the syptoms of my last relapse are finally fadnig and i am gettting back to 'normal' should I put my life on hold in case I have another relapse in 6 months or 6 years? I have thought about all sides of this argument, and I know that it will be hard work, I know what stresses it will put on my body, I know that it is a massive financial commitment and I have considered the impact of a parent with MS on a child. I also know that I have a big, supportive family, I know that I have a husband who (although it took him some time to get to grips) is supportive, will always be a provider and will be an amazing father. I know that I will be a great mother and I know that I will have to (and be happy) to go without my luxuries so that my child can have everything it needs. If I give up my dreams for MS now I will resent and regret it for the rest of my life.
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