Jumping in at the end here, but I have 2 little boys, aged 7 & 5, so I am not that far from the nappies and night feeds, and still have a long way to go before they are independent...
I have to say that the thought of my husband & I being wiped out by a car crash worries me on a daily basis, while my ms, well, does not. If you have the RR type, and are reasonably ok, this disease is so unpreditable that I dont think it should prevent you from following your dream. Yes, having kids is a practical decision as well as an emotional one. So if it a burning need within you, and you have gone through all the stuff like, can I feed it & pay the mortgage, will I carry on working & how...then, it really boils down to realising the dream, which can bring its' own heartbreak. You are there now, Mrs.G, and I truely pray that you get your dream.
I also think that having a parent with ms is not necessarily a negative thing for a kid - my boys are much more compassionate and thoughtful of others, in part I think, because of my ms - when I am ill, or even just on Avonex day, they are so sweet, and it gives them the opportunity to care for someone else, in a small kid kind of way - if I am lying down, they will come and cuddle with me& watch some tv quietly, they will ask me if I would like a glass of water, they are much more eager to make their own beds, or fix themselves a snack when I am not well, so it improves their independence, and yet, when I am fine, they still expect me to fetch and carry for them as any kid that age does - but the seeds of caring are there. And before anyone gets indignant, I do not expect my kids to look after me, I do that myself, plus my husband is very involved with his sons' care, as is my mother in law - I also am fortunate enough to have someone to help with household chores - cleaning, ironing etc - so they are by no means slave labour! I only mention how sweet they can be to demonstrate the positive impact having a parent with this disease can have on a kid - they love Mom, therefore they want to help - it is a very loving and kind trait that I think more kids would benefit from developing - less about 'me' (and yes, I know that small kids are self-centered and should be developmentally), and more about 'others' - they automatically look out for younger kids, it is so cute.
Anyway, I have also benefited on occasion from Gwa's advice, and believe that what was said was said with the best of intentions - Lew, you are so right!
None of us know what the future holds, you can only make a decision based on your own here and now, obviously having considered the variables, and planning for the more commonn outcomes and eventualities, but that is it. It is always a leap of faith, at least to some extent - and Mrs. G. I hope you get to make your leap, and will pray for it.