Miss_Feisty wrote:Thank you Cheerleader....I will trek onwards.
I'm curious, as a partner of someone with ms, did you go through the grieving as well? Did you have to work through your own adjustment period?
yup. Same stages of grieving I went thru after my brother died-
denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Except they aren't cut and dried phases. I sometimes hop in and out of them. At first, I was really mad at healthy couples...furious at the older people I saw at the gym working out, couples who were fighting over really stupid, inconsequential stuff. Just pissed me off!!! How dare they be able-bodied and not appreciate it! Why did they get bodies that worked? That was the weirdest stage, because I'm not an angry person...but I was livid.
As Jeff got some stability, and I saw that I wasn't going to lose him, I hit the depression (around the time I started posting on this site) Found it hard to talk about this stuff with friends and family...they didn't get it.
Now I'm at acceptance and even feel some level of healing going on, as I try to help other people. But I do have my bad days. I try not to imagine the future, and live in the present moment. Easier said than done. It still kills me to see Jeff in pain. As a Christian, my faith's been rocked and then strengthened, as I now understand why my savior needed to be a wounded, suffering healer. He chose to hang out with the losers, the sick people, outcasts, the folks that made "normal" people uncomfortable- or depressed.
So, for learning that life lesson- I'm thankful. The rest, not so much-
keep being feisty...