What to expect immediately after diagnosis? You'll get the proclamation form the doc and then...... nothing
This a facetious way of saying things won't immediately change. You will still feel (symptoms, etc.) the way you are now. It may hit home a little more. I don't remember where you are in the diagnostic process, but you've probably gathered from reading this board that an MS diagnosis can be pretty nebulous, since there's not one clear indicator. The first general neuro I saw said I only had one event, was suspicious for MS, but didn't meet the criteria yet. The MS specialist I saw for a 2nd opinion looked at my symptom list and determined there were 2 separate events, and I met the criteria for MS. Either way, it didn't make much difference, since both recommended starting medication. So, if you're doc doesn't give you an "official MS diagnosis," ask what the plan forward is.
The RR vs progressive question is a good one, but from what I understand the only way to tell is look back in time. But it's good asking the neuro how he would determine this. There's no registry for MS patients (though I did read recently that there is talk of trying to start a voluntary one). As for clinical trials, I made a point of searching them out. I believe others found that the doctor's office they went to was running trials, and they were offered.
It's a good list of questions. Here are my comments looking back (keep in mind, I've grown a little cynical of doctors, and neurologists in particular).
1. Good question, but I would phrase it as "what else have you considered and ruled out." Bob (Lyon) recently posted a link to an article by John Fleming which gives all the differential diagnosis for MS. Now, the list is pretty long, and you could be here til old age running all the tests, but it is a useful article. Also, is he says you have MS, ask him why he reached that conclusion. If not, ask him why not.
2. Good question, but many neuros don't do an EDSS assessment. Still worth asking.
3. First wait to see if and what treatment he recommends. Then I would ask about FTY and Cladribine. Both have completed trials and are in the process of being submitted for FDA approval.
4. Good question.
5. Don't be surprised if he's never heard of it. Can't hurt to ask, but don't emphasize that you heard about it on the internet. You'll get the eye roll for sure.
6, 7 & 8. Good questions.
9. I don't know too much about PT for MS, but I would think, unless you're having a specific problem (i.e. stiff leg), it's not really necessary. Diet is a good question, but many doctors discount the value of diet. I guess you'll have to get a feel for your particular doc. If he's receptive to things like nutrition, ask about vitamin D, fish oil, etc.
I can sympathize with noticing things more. I find myself stumbling over words sometimes, and recently I've had a heck of a time solving some fairly simple math problems. I'm just writing it off as being tired and carelessness.
Anyway, those are my suggestions. Use what you wish. I've only been at this for a year; I'm sure some of the more seasoned veterans will have good suggestions.