JenniferF wrote:Oh man. That's a lot to deal with.
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Jen, you'd mentioned Alanon and I did attend a couple of meetings. What to do with an alcoholic even my own son was not hard. I refused to deal with it, that's all. That son was raised by his dad, pretty much wrecked, became an alcoholic and came to me homeless. Other things are hard for me to deal with but requiring him to be sober as a condition of staying in my home was a no brainer and when he fell after two years of sobriety, he broke the agreement. There is nothing I can or should do to help him until he sees one drink as the equivalent of putting a gun to his head. He's locked up now for a while from crimes mixed up with his father from over two years ago. Alcoholism in itself becomes a tornado of problems that threaten to suck everyone into it if they allow it to happen. The whole thing was a heart breaker but a stress I had to get away from me and did.
The end of life issues with my dad will eventually end. Thank God my brother is strong, healthy and we have always been close.
My oldest daughter is making her own life and choices and has to accept responsibility for them.
My 21-year-old son has just tied an anvil to his neck for the next 18 years making a baby (or so the girl says) now. This son has been my biggest help and that will be changing.