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how to help my dad

Postby Mzstylz » Wed Mar 16, 2011 2:34 am

my dad was diagnosed with ms over 8 years ago .. he has not dealt with this at all . it feels like his just given up ... he wont do his exercises he hates going out .. because he feels like his to unstable to go out .. he has cut out most of our family .. his firends are almost gone .. in the last year his condition has worsen due to him just giving up .. my dads only 47 years old .. but he just wont leave the house .. his become a hermit ... i'm so lost on what i can do for him ... please help me !!!! im scared my whole family is falling apart ... an that im losing my dad ..
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Postby jimmylegs » Wed Mar 16, 2011 5:12 am

very sad, sorry to hear this. there will be lots of support here. i'd say your first battle will be against depression. it's pretty tough to change someone's attitude from outside. has he ever had any counseling or therapy? sometimes a disinterested non-family party can be a great emotional resource for a patient.

if you can get him feeling a little more positive then there will be room for some more proactive steps. lots of people here are talking about ccsvi, which could offer some hope.

personally i am a strong advocate for correcting nutritional deficiencies seen in ms patients. but if your dad is not taking medication, i don't know if it's time for that kind of suggestion.

good for you for coming here on behalf of your dad. i'm sure others will chime in here to offer support and perhaps advice.
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Re: how to help my dad

Postby NHE » Wed Mar 16, 2011 3:22 pm

Mzstylz wrote:my dad was diagnosed with ms over 8 years ago .. he has not dealt with this at all . it feels like his just given up ... he wont do his exercises he hates going out .. because he feels like his to unstable to go out .. he has cut out most of our family .. his firends are almost gone .. in the last year his condition has worsen due to him just giving up .. my dads only 47 years old .. but he just wont leave the house .. his become a hermit ... i'm so lost on what i can do for him ... please help me !!!! im scared my whole family is falling apart ... an that im losing my dad ..


Over the years, some of my friends have drifted away as well. I can no longer do the things we used to do like hiking, skiing or bicycling. Other friends tend to fill in some of the gaps though. My recommendation would be to spend some time with your dad. What does he like to do? If he likes to garden, help him out in the yard since it's Spring. If that's not possible due to his physical condition, just sit with him and play some cards, e.g., cribbage, poker or whatever he likes. Maybe you could cook him dinner one night. After a few visits like this, suggest going out to do something. Don't get upset if he doesn't want to go out. Just suggest something else. Be patient. It may take some time to effect a change. In the meantime, be supportive.

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Postby HunnyBunny » Wed Mar 16, 2011 4:32 pm

NHE has some wonderful words of advise. I'm so sorry your Dad is going thru this, it must be so tough to see this happening. I hope you can be a wonderful support for him.

Take NHE's advise, and maybe you can also keep encouraging him, and maybe your other family members to do the same.

Take care!
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