hi there, i'm pretty new at this too but here goes
being newly diagnosed is certainly a freaking scary time. i remember feeling suddenly so insecure, like somebody had cut invisible strings that held me together. as i got worse, i kept saying 'well, at least i can still (insert function here)" and then by the next day, that would be gone too. i wanted comfort from my parents but they were just as scared, and i wanted to monopolize my neurologist. once i was off the couch and back on the computer, the fear receded as i learned and started planning.
i arranged appointments with a naturopath (who has MS and was recommended to me by my family doctor and others) and dietitian through my school coverage and services (i'm a university student); i got a referral to a physiotherapist from my family doctor, i had the peripheral neurologist and the MS clinic doctor and staff, and i arranged appointments with a counsellor through my work's employee assistance plan. and i called the local chapter of the MS society. it has been GREAT to get all the different viewpoints.
but even with all these professionals advising me (and contradicting each other sometimes, of course), i find the greatest comfort from gaining my own level of understanding of past and current research, by reading medical journal articles (which also contradict each other of course). i'm lucky to have access to the full text of many because i'm a student. but even just the abstracts are great to read. you start to understand the language after a while (and a LOT of wikipedia time). so all i can say, tira, is READ READ READ! educate yourself and find the path that is right for you. scholar.google.com is a great search engine for peer reviewed literature. since you already know about diabetes, you probably have a headstart!
you have found a great community here and everyone is looking for answers too. there are lots of great ideas here and in the medical world - just don't get caught up in one right away. read everything! take your time!
the main thing is to find your own way to fight. eva marsh did that in her book. her way is very different from mine, but that's great! diversity and all that
don't despair. i'll tell you one thing, i might still be in denial about my spinal tap results too, but i don't think having stupid oligoclonal bands is a death sentence. i'm going to get healthy and they're going to go away, dammit! i was scared of the drugs too, and decided against medical advice to defer starting them. but i am NOT doing nothing.
i think the best thing going for you is **relatively benign, very early stage**. even though my attack was kind of a kicker, i am SO GLAD it happened because i really needed this wakeup call with respect to taking care of myself.
anyway, tira, fear is for the unknown, so the quicker you know your battle, the sooner you will be empowered to fight!