Hey Bob, it's great to meet you.
I would bet that you and I could have some good conversations. Yes, it is a little odd I guess about how I have handled the MS knowing from the start she had it. My first blog post was about that exact subject because it is really hard to read all the posts online where a spouse leaves because of the disease.
The night my wife told me about her MS, she used words very similar to what you just wrote. She had told past boyfriends and they usually wanted out of the relationship. It wasn't about the disease to me, it was about the woman. So, we have been happily married and have a 10 year old daughter that we couldn't be more blessed with.
There are definetely times when it is hard, but it always brings us closer together. A few years ago she was numb from her chest down for about a month. It was hard because she couldn't walk or get around and it hurt her that she couldn't be there for my daughter or me. We worked through it and it made us stronger as a family. I found a way to reverse the numbness and we were back to normal. So, yes, I have a different story I guess. I have tried to talk with other spouses to help them. It isn't easy being the spouse, especially if you have children.
Thanks for the post, and I look forward to the conversations too.
Wife diagnosed in 1990 - mywifehasms.blogspot.com