This Is MS Multiple Sclerosis Community: Knowledge & Support

"Monsieur l'abbé, I detest what you write, but I would give my life to make it possible for you to continue to write."

Voltaire, letter to M. le Riche.

@cece: all posts by the banned user have been removed from the forum. only the most innocuous posts directed at that user remain, nothing contentious - as far as i can see anyway. basically it was trolling squared.

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my approach: no meds so far - just balanced whole foods (partial 'paleo', much less outright elimination), science, supplements, & bloodwork
my regimen - www.thisisms.com/ftopict-2489.html
www.whfoods.com, www.nutritiondata.com

which banned user?

An old Scottish saying:


"A little bit of disagreement keeps the talk long.
Too much agreement kills a conversation.J"

I would definitely have to lay down the pitchfork, if we're going for a group hug. No hidden knives?

For Arron:

I'm wondering why the number of moderators hasn't increased in relation to the growth of TIMS since the appearance of CCSVI?

Increasing the size of the team of moderators would take off pressure from current moderators, provide for better coverage of all forums, increase respect for all moderators, decrease moderator mistakes, and increase member satisfaction.

I can think of two people who would make excellent additions to the team of moderators.

Looking forward to your reply,

Respectfully,
~HappyPoet

Group hugs? Forgive and forget? Turn the other cheek?

What about

hi happy, monitoring is of course the task of TIMS members.

therefore, the number has increased in lock-step with the growth of the site.

anyway, the moderators' role is to respond to your private messages - including links to issues - and i thank you for your help to date.

rules of the board:


by and large, messages arrive in my inbox at a slow trickle.

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my approach: no meds so far - just balanced whole foods (partial 'paleo', much less outright elimination), science, supplements, & bloodwork
my regimen - www.thisisms.com/ftopict-2489.html
www.whfoods.com, www.nutritiondata.com

HappyPoet I do not think the answer is more moderators. One thing to keep in mind is the ONLY forum where there are complaints,generally speaking, is from the CCSVI forum. Maybe a moderator just assigned to this forum would help? Although there has definitely been a need for some reminders to some of the members about forum rules I really have not read anything that would justify banning someone from Thisisms. If people are really looking to work through disagreements here is some tips from conflict resolution 101:

Unhealthy responses to conflict are characterized by:

* An inability to recognize and respond to matters of great importance to the other person
* Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions
* The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment
* The expectation of bad outcomes
* The fear and avoidance of conflict


Healthy responses to conflict are characterized by:

* The capacity to recognize and respond to important matters
* A readiness to forgive and forget
* The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing
* A belief that resolution can support the interests and needs of both parties

I am a new poster here on TIMS but I've been reading for awhile. I will say that some of the naysayers do make me uncomfortable, because it's obvious they only want to stir up trouble. I don't see a problem with skepticism, brought with intelligence and data, but it isn't usually that way. It's more often snide or rude comments that appear to be intended to derail the conversation (and I can say it did create an environment where I was uncomfortable even joining). I also do find myself wondering how anyone with MS or knowing someone with MS isn't at least open to CCSVI as a possibility, let alone wanting to come in here and shoot down anybody who believes strongly that CCSVI has a major role in MS (whether causative or not). Yes it is important to have rigorous studies, and for the quantity of time this has been out there, I think the studies are happening, and over time, we will continue to learn more and more about what i believe is an amazing discovery. I did think this message board was supposed to be a supportive place for the discussion.

well said!

Yes, this is a helpful post.

Concerned has offered this:
So he is distinguishing between skepticisms and beefs and you are distinguishing between skepticisms and rude or snide comments meant to derail.

Banning is not the way to help patients make sense of the unfolding research on CCSVI.

On the other hand I don’t like seeing the posts written by medical tourism clinics we have from time to time. I don't like seeing personal attacks either.

I would suggest that moderatos need to give posters that are clearly violating the forum rules a warning. If more than say 3 warnings are given then, a ban might be applied.

As you might know I’ve been unreasonably banned from a forum where I was documenting my progress after I was treated for CCSVI.

I was banned a few days after I finally got off medication and almost fully recovered.

My posts were never disrespectful. I was banned because a couple of moderators on that forum disagreed with CCSVI.

We don’t have to agree with every single post. If you don’t like it or disagree don’t get offended or heated up. Skip it. I know that it is very hard to do.

But at any cost try be respectful and avoid personal attacks. Our diseases are horrible, we have enough going on in our lives to add more drama and aggression here.

Kindly,
Rox

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Diagnosed with Transverse Myelitis in December 2008. Inflammatory demyelination of the spinal cord (c3-c5). No MS, but still CCSVI.

http://www.thisisms.com/ftopicp-1964.html#1964
Posted: Thu Jul 08, 2004 1:05 pm Post subject: Banning Policy
Posted by: Arron.

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my approach: no meds so far - just balanced whole foods (partial 'paleo', much less outright elimination), science, supplements, & bloodwork
my regimen - www.thisisms.com/ftopict-2489.html
www.whfoods.com, www.nutritiondata.com

Sounds fair to me as long as the "complaints" are due to violations from the "rules of the board".