Deciding whether or not to have another child...
Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 7:28 pm
Hi Everyone,
I never thought that i would be on a ms forum asking this question to a group of people that i don't know but unfortunately i have something in common with.
We have got 2 beautiful children but we always thought that we would have 3. Now a spanner has been thrown in the works as ms has decided to "wake up" after the birth of my second son. I have probably had it for 13 years and have thankfully only had mild sensory symptoms that are so mild that i often thought i was imaging them.
I have only just started Avonex for the first time and i'm titrating up to the full dose.
I've spoken to doctors about having another child and i have been told to go for it if that's what we want. They say that many patients with ms have more children, some do great and others not so great.
I'm currently struggling with thoughts like.."will having a third child rock the boat? will i become worse?, what if i'm not able to be the active healthy mother that i am and always want to be?
I know that anything can happen but i also know that i might stay with a mild ms course but it's the not knowing that i hate.
At least now i know that i have ms and at least there are treatments available and there will possibly be a couple more that may be superior to the ones we have now in the next few years ( i'm hoping of course).
Have any of you had to make this kind of decision?or know of anyone who has?
I don't even know what kind of replies that i expect as there is of course no answer unless one is psychic
I keep thinking the i've been so well for 13 years and am still well so hopefully that could be an indication of things to come but i'm not that arrogant/deluded that i don't realise the reality of the possible outcomes of this disease.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Elly
I never thought that i would be on a ms forum asking this question to a group of people that i don't know but unfortunately i have something in common with.
We have got 2 beautiful children but we always thought that we would have 3. Now a spanner has been thrown in the works as ms has decided to "wake up" after the birth of my second son. I have probably had it for 13 years and have thankfully only had mild sensory symptoms that are so mild that i often thought i was imaging them.
I have only just started Avonex for the first time and i'm titrating up to the full dose.
I've spoken to doctors about having another child and i have been told to go for it if that's what we want. They say that many patients with ms have more children, some do great and others not so great.
I'm currently struggling with thoughts like.."will having a third child rock the boat? will i become worse?, what if i'm not able to be the active healthy mother that i am and always want to be?
I know that anything can happen but i also know that i might stay with a mild ms course but it's the not knowing that i hate.
At least now i know that i have ms and at least there are treatments available and there will possibly be a couple more that may be superior to the ones we have now in the next few years ( i'm hoping of course).
Have any of you had to make this kind of decision?or know of anyone who has?
I don't even know what kind of replies that i expect as there is of course no answer unless one is psychic
I keep thinking the i've been so well for 13 years and am still well so hopefully that could be an indication of things to come but i'm not that arrogant/deluded that i don't realise the reality of the possible outcomes of this disease.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Elly