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On a personal note- lost my Dad

PostPosted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 7:53 pm
by Terry
My dad (77) passed away yesterday. He went peacefully, unmedicated, and seemingly pain free. He had fought with great strength and determination a 9 year battle with cancer.
The battle became quite hard during the last month.
I will miss him.
For the MS twist on this... if stress is a factor, I am in for it.
I loved my Daddy.

PostPosted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 8:21 pm
by Bubba
Sorry for your loss Terry. I CANNOT imagine losing my Father or any parent for that matter. They will have to put me in a round rubber padded room, in a straight jacket. Me and my wife just went through the loss of her mother to cancer last month and it has really taken a toll on her. Our Prayers will be with you. :(

PostPosted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 8:35 pm
by Alicia

I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.


PostPosted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 8:38 pm
by jimmylegs
terry, sorry to hear such sad news. any time you need virtual hugs we'll be here for you!

PostPosted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 9:01 pm
by cheerleader
Oh, Terry...
I'm so, so sorry.
Your daddy will watch over you and make sure you are OK. My brother's been looking out for us since he died. I still feel his hugs.
prayers and tears for you-

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 4:31 am
by Loobie

I will keep you in my prayers. Just remember how much he loved you and how much you loved him. Has to be hard.


PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 6:35 am
by Terry
Thanks guys. I took lots of time off work lately taking him to the doc, then helping Mom take him to the doc (took two of us to get him there) then helping with him at his home. My work piled up. I am way behind there. That seems fairly unimportant now and I'll get it caught up.
Sometimes I think someone is already watching over me. I did all I could do. No regrets. I just will miss him. ( and I wish he had been able to plant tomatoes one more time- he loved doing it and was already planning for it)
To you who have been through this kind of thing, my thoughts are with you as well. Thanks for your kind replies.

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 7:03 am
by Needled
Terry, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad to cancer 10 years ago. Sometime it feels like just yesterday, other times it feels like forever ago. But he’ll never be gone from your heart or mind. You’ll always have him there. And the good memories don't fade. Things can be so very dark and heavy right now, but it does ease up with time. I chose to believe he was in a better place and that he’s still looking out for me.
My father was a gardener, too. When my mother and I picked the first tomotoe of the season without him there, we cried buckets. OK, I’m getting teary as I write this, so I’ll stop now and say I’ll be thinking of you. We're only a post away if you need us.

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 7:37 am
by Wonderfulworld
I'm really sorry to hear of your Dad's death. You must be heart-broken. It is so hard seeing someone you love go through hard times with pain and suffering. I haven't lost my parents (and I know from a friend there is a world of difference between losing a parent and other losses) but I was extremely close to my Gran and losing her broke my heart 10 years ago. I think of her every day and I talk to her all the time - I am sure you'll do the same with your Dad.
You take care of yourself now - it's hard to get through grief and have MS too. Again, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss.

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 7:50 am
by robbie
sorry terry

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 8:15 am
by AndrewKFletcher
Sorry to hear about your Dad passing Terry, My dad died a few years ago and it was very hard, he also died of cancer and unmedicated.

It does get easier as the years drift past. I have a tape of him reading one of his poems and can't bring myself to play it.

Here are a Blackcountryman's few words put together for Dad's funeral service.

To our one and only Father
No better can be found nor had
Put us on the straight and narrow
And that can’t be all that bad
He taught us how to Tat n’ fish
And put some dinner on we dish
He learned us to give and take
And how to fend and money make
A canny man who doesn’t bend
Who’s spirit’s hard can never brake
His words are just and so profound
His manner humble in quiet thought
And a hardened boxer from the ring
Who swiftly educated those he fought
A funny comic who joked in song
He shined the leather on the ball
And bruised a willow bat you know it
But most of all accomplished much
As Ken The Blackcountry Poet

From Andrew and Garry

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 11:35 am
by Lyon

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 9:33 pm
by dignan
I'm so sorry for your loss Terry.

PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:32 am
by carolew
Very sad indeed Terry, all my sympathies, Carole