Having issues with girlfriend who has MS
Posted: Tue May 14, 2013 6:45 pm
hello. i started dating my girlfriend who has ms about a year ago but recently i have been having issues with her. she is constantly saying how i do not help her with her daily chores, yet she seems to forget that i do help her plenty. i have learned that memory is an issue with ms, but my girl friend seems to only remember times i tell her i am too busy to help her at the time she asks me for help. my girlfriend seems to forget or neglect all the other times i have gone out of my way and even her family says that i do go out of my way for her.
referring to my girlfriends condition she is on gilenya and thankfully it has prevented her from having ms attacks. she is able to walk, dress herself, shower, do her hair and makeup, do laundry (not huge loads though). she even can do ballet. i always tell her to be thankful that she is able to do such things because there are many with ms that can't.
my girlfriend does suffer from depression (which is a symptom) and anxiety. she is on antidepressants and sees a psychologist. i have even started going to a psychologist to try to be as patient and understanding as possible so i can deal with the relationship better.
what has me concerned is her psychological state because any event that be adverse will cause her to start crying and she will say how ms has limited her abilities. i try to tell her its ok don't let it affect her. an example of this was when we went to vegas and she got tired of walking. i know long walks can be brutal for ms so i tell her lets sit down and rest. yet her mood will stayed bad the whole time.
i truly love her, yet the more and more i see her complain about me and see her unhappy the harder it is for me. i know this sounds selfish, but i end up feeling stressed out when she is in a negative mood.
perhaps i need some perspective from this community?
referring to my girlfriends condition she is on gilenya and thankfully it has prevented her from having ms attacks. she is able to walk, dress herself, shower, do her hair and makeup, do laundry (not huge loads though). she even can do ballet. i always tell her to be thankful that she is able to do such things because there are many with ms that can't.
my girlfriend does suffer from depression (which is a symptom) and anxiety. she is on antidepressants and sees a psychologist. i have even started going to a psychologist to try to be as patient and understanding as possible so i can deal with the relationship better.
what has me concerned is her psychological state because any event that be adverse will cause her to start crying and she will say how ms has limited her abilities. i try to tell her its ok don't let it affect her. an example of this was when we went to vegas and she got tired of walking. i know long walks can be brutal for ms so i tell her lets sit down and rest. yet her mood will stayed bad the whole time.
i truly love her, yet the more and more i see her complain about me and see her unhappy the harder it is for me. i know this sounds selfish, but i end up feeling stressed out when she is in a negative mood.
perhaps i need some perspective from this community?