fed up

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

okay any of you caregivers out there get really fed up with a sad sack of a sick person? if so how do you deal? because i fail to handle an ongoing whiny irritable fatalistic attitude - clearly, so not my style. any tips appreciated. it's not like it's a few days, i have reached the end of my tether after months and months and it's getting worse not better. doctor says all we can do is wait, so we're going to wait. very proactive. grr.

cheerleader · Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject:

hey JL-
Sorry it's gotten more difficult. Must be hard to deal with. I know you're not fatalistic or dark...at all.

A little caregiver tip: Just remember, you are not responsible for anyone else's health or happiness....you can attend to their needs, but the rest is up to THEM. Take time for yourself, don't let the negative energy bring you down. Make a little force field shield of joy around yourself when you're near this person.

Healing doesn't mean disease goes away. Healing means acceptance. Miracles would be nice (!) but we all eventually die, anyway. It's how we choose to spend our limited days here on earth that makes the diff. You know that!

hang in there-
cheer
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jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

thanks cheer. it's just so frustrating when there are things that *could* be helping. and this person has watched me go through my whole process and was right there when all my breakthroughs happened... but i guess all that only applies to me Evil or Very Mad

NOT
my force shield integrity is very low right now, it is easily penetrated by the ongoing heaving of sighs or bursts of temper... i have been definitely hiding away from it. sometimes it seeks me out, unfortunately. but i do have some fun things on the go too. this weekend is sound of music festival. i'd be going tonight if i'd finished my essay on track, but i didn't, so too bad it'll have to be tomorrow instead Wink

thanks again for the support Smile

i'm going back to my sunny music room with my books, far from the gloom and the incessant drone of the television.

carolew · Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 7:10 pm Post subject:

hang in there JL. You are not alone....

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

thanks carole!!!!

Artifishual · Family Elder Joined: Mar 10, 2008 Posts: 431

Give em some antifreeze and water, LOL, that'll shut em up Twisted Evil

Sorry dude I could not resist.

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

heh

i got punched in the face the other day, it's so fun here. i'm leaving for a week today.

Artifishual · Family Elder Joined: Mar 10, 2008 Posts: 431

Post a picture before you leave , Please I want to see it

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

it's just a jaw bruise nothing special like a black eye Smile

Artifishual · Family Elder Joined: Mar 10, 2008 Posts: 431

Still wanna see it Shocked

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

well, i'm back, and the surface bruise is gone but there's still this weird lump on the jawbone. it doesn't hurt though. is that normal? is it just some kind of really hard local swelling?
anyway i'm hiding away from the rest of the household and i'll go stay with friends for the next couple of months. i need to be around people that aren't insane.

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

still have that weird lump on the jawbone. maybe it'll be permanent? i've been starting to house hunt, but the finances won't add up til september or october. at least i have a respite since 'they' are away for 2wks right now. and at other times friends are providing temporary places to vanish to.
my favourite quote: "i can't believe i hit you" um, does that mean there's something unbelievable about this time in particular?

cheerleader · Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:36 pm Post subject:

Hey Jimmy-
been concerned about you, haven't seen your name popping up on the boards. I'm glad you've been away from the drama, and that you'll have some time at home on your own. Your jaw might take awhile to heal. Sounds like it's still swollen. Are you able to close your mouth and chew OK? If so, you'll probably be alright.

Abusers are always sorry...too late! Just because they don't have any control over their anger and lash out without thinking, they act surprised after the fact. arghhh!!! I broke the chain of violence in my family, and I know you have, too. Stay away as long as you're able.
best,
AC
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Husband diagnosed RRMS March 2007
pursuing endothelial healing
Copaxone, Swank, supplements, laughter

jimmylegs · Family Elder Joined: Mar 12, 2006 Posts: 2009

heya cheer thanks for your concern. i'm okay, i have been keeping an eye on things here, but i just don't have much to contribute right now i guess. i can close my jaw and all about as well as i could before, what with prior injuries Rolling Eyes

thanks cheer, i have broken it thoroughly, aside from the ongoing fun times which have recently re-surfaced. you've done better than i, i took the cop-out and decided no kids for this gal! i will definitely be staying away. as soon as i find a place, that's it. and when i can afford it, back to the west coast i go. absence makes the heart grow normal, in this family.

Loobie · Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 7:45 am Post subject:

Hey Legs,

I have an unexplained bump that won't go away after a bruise too. Maybe it's an MS thing. I tripped over the damn dog tether on a camping trip about two months ago and even though there is zero pain, it still has this hard bump. Weird, but it doesn't hurt so that's a good thing. Sorry to hear about your families propencity for abuse. That can't be fun.
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