freud was wrong about transference

VirtuallyFine · Post by **VirtuallyFine** » Mon Mar 15, 2004 5:59 pm

so...tomorrow i go to see my neuro. i am so excited to see him again. it has been several years; however, we do bounce e-mail to each other. of all the drs i had seen over 5 years (trying to figure out what was wrong with me) he was the first one to say "BLA" and be right, and know what i was talking about, and look at me as if i were NOT crazy. when i was 1st dx'd, i thought my life was completely over. this is what terrified me ~ he knew what i was saying, and he knew what he was saying ~ i had ms ~ no more guessing. i have never had such a feeling of loss and fear before in my life. i could only ask, "will you be my doctor?" i had been shuttled around between specialists so much that i just wanted one doctor, and i wanted it to be him. do i love my neurologist? yes. is it transference? no. i love him b/c he has dedicated his life to helping us, and because he said, "yes, we (himself and his clinic staff) will take you under our wing" ~ and he held up his arm as if it were a wing and flapped it ~ and despite the fear i was feeling he made me smile. it makes me tear up thinking about it now. so freud is a nut, transference (aka falling in love with your dr) is not the same as love and admiration and gratitude ~ all of which i have for my neuro...

have you hugged your neuro lately?

Post by **Arron** » Mon Mar 15, 2004 7:40 pm

wow, great post. Others near your location should send you a private message to get the name of your neuro, because loving your neuro certainly seems to be a rarity lately.

Shayk · Post by **Shayk** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 6:15 pm

Yeah, too bad I'm not close to your neuro.

My neuro told me the only reason to have a spinal tap was if I wanted the final nail in my coffin.

A quote I'll never forget to be sure.

Not exactly an angel with flapping wings

It's wonderful yours is so good.

Sharon

VirtuallyFine · Post by **VirtuallyFine** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 6:24 pm

your neuro is a dork. sorry about that. my gp and your neuro must have gone to the same school of dorkism, b/c i remember my gp saying "you have 5 to 10 years" ~ another quote to never forget.

HOWEVER!!! THERE ARE GREAT DRS OUT THERE!!! (like my neuro) ~ so find them and love them...keep them motivated to be the great people they are!

p.s. ~ i am 3 years relapse free...my gp can go suck an egg...

Shayk · Post by **Shayk** » Tue Mar 16, 2004 6:33 pm

You're right, my neuro is a complete dork.

I wanted 6 mos. on Avonex without a relapse before I tried to switch docs.(there's a shortage of neuros here and about 3 mos to appmt.)

Well, that didn't happen.

So, I see him again in May.

I'm so happy you could prove your primary care doc wrong.

That's got to be a great feeling

Sharon

VirtuallyFine · Post by **VirtuallyFine** » Sat Mar 20, 2004 7:54 am

May I Say It AGAIN?

I LOVE MY NEURO!!

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