Am 25 and really want to get married
Am 25 and really want to get married
I do not want him to end up living a care giver's life and I do want him to have a fun life. We had made plans of trekking all our lives which doesn't seem to be a possibility with my constant imbalance and weakness. But he doesn't want to hear about any reasons i give and wants to go ahead with the wedding.
We also wanted to adopt a child sometime in the next 3 years, but I am worried if I will be able to be a good parent. I say this as I have read that most people with MS are disabled or need a wheelchair within 10 years of diagnosis. And, I am not sure that is fair to any child. I do want to run around with my kids. I am very confused.
Thanks in advance for all your replies ... and good luck to evryone
I am 24, was married summer 2008, have had MS for ~5 years or so. Also my wife and I just had our first child one month ago. Honestly if I didn't tell you I had MS you would never know, I am on Rebif for treatment, and show no visible symptoms from the drug or from the MS. The only real symptom I have ever had is fatigue, but nothing that would stop me from doing daily activities.
There is no reason to think you should not get married based soley on the fact that you have MS. You can still live a full/fun life. As I am sure you've heard MS is different for everyone, so theres no telling if you would need a wheelchair someday, so certainly dont think that is a guarantee for your future.
Honestly if you two love each other then keep your plans, you won't regret it. Just remember to stay positive, they are making advancements in treatments/possible cures every day, its only a matter of time!
I hope this eases your mind somewhat, dont give up on life, you've still got a lot of life left!

Thank you very much for your response. Yes, I shall keep a positive view of things and will not give up my chance on a wonderful family.
I have registered with the national MS society to educate myself with the latest trends and treatments, and am actually looking forward to my life ahead.
Thank you very much and have fun with your daughter!!
Yes I am feeling a lot better. I was more worried about what choices I should make for the future than my illness by itself. Now like you said, I will just be taking things as they come by and not worry too much. I am not so confused anymore, and to tell you the truth MS has not affected my lifestyle much and I tend to even forget I have it a lot of times.
I guess I am going to be fine after all
