My girlfriend had an MS scare. She's only 20, and he's been upset over it for the past couple of days. She's (I think) convinced it's already started.
Being 300 miles away, I can't do much to comfort her, especially due to some complex circumstances, we can't talk all that much.
I would very much appreciate any help on this issue.
Partner with MS
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I don't think she'd want to, plus I'm doing this slightly behind her back. But I care about her, a lot. And this is a difficult situation for her and I feel useless.SandyK wrote:Ask her to come on board. I think there's a lot of us who were diagnosed at her age. We'd love to talk with her.
It seemed like she wanted to get her mind off of it more than anything, so for example today I wrote her a short story and talked her through it. Kind of a "story time" date before Bed. Which seemed to go 50/50 successful. She got into it (slightly? At least it seemed like that) but then she was exhausted so we decided to pick it up later
I'm trying to do some cute things for her, since I feel so useless, but nothing seems to be working.
She kind of wants to be left alone, but I'm not sure. That just seems like a sure way that she'll end up depressed.
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This is time for you to evaluate your own relationship with her. If you are unwilling to stick by her long-term, this would be the time to exit the scene. I think her efforts to "pull back" are her way to allow you to do this.
I think you are correct when you said:
I think you are correct when you said:
I would suggest that she needs more attention now than ever.She kind of wants to be left alone, but I'm not sure. That just seems like a sure way that she'll end up depressed.
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I've told her that I'm in this for the long run, and I want her in my life for as long as we possibly can. She has trouble believing it, but says that it will come in time.lyndacarol wrote:This is time for you to evaluate your own relationship with her. If you are unwilling to stick by her long-term, this would be the time to exit the scene. I think her efforts to "pull back" are her way to allow you to do this.
I'm young, but I'm steadfast in my beliefs. I've had close family friends with MS and Huntington's, and I know generally what our future would be like. Yet I want nothing more than to be there for her, whatever it takes.
She's no longer allowed to speak to me for the time being. Great.I think you are correct when you said:
I would suggest that she needs more attention now than ever.She kind of wants to be left alone, but I'm not sure. That just seems like a sure way that she'll end up depressed.
Anyways, if this all does eventually work itself out, can anyone give me more details on what to expect in the future? Maybe even things I can do to be proactive instead of reactive?
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There is no judgment here on your decision; and young people can make good decisions. You know the situation, you know the people involved, you are the only one who can make your decision. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for you and your girlfriend.
You have known people with MS (there is a wide range of severity of disease symptoms). Imagine a worse case scenario and decide if you are up to dealing with that. None of us can know what the future holds; most of us did not anticipate we would have this awful disease to deal with.
Whatever situation prohibits her from speaking to you, those conditions may be a good test of your determination.
My suggestion for being proactive is to read, read, read; educate yourself as much as possible on the disease and treatments that are out there today. I think many new ideas are coming. If you will ever help in the decision-making process, you will be of greatest help if you can be up on new treatments. I send you my best wishes.
You have known people with MS (there is a wide range of severity of disease symptoms). Imagine a worse case scenario and decide if you are up to dealing with that. None of us can know what the future holds; most of us did not anticipate we would have this awful disease to deal with.
Whatever situation prohibits her from speaking to you, those conditions may be a good test of your determination.
My suggestion for being proactive is to read, read, read; educate yourself as much as possible on the disease and treatments that are out there today. I think many new ideas are coming. If you will ever help in the decision-making process, you will be of greatest help if you can be up on new treatments. I send you my best wishes.