My gf of 5 years has MS and I can't take it anymore
Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2014 4:45 pm
So when I started going out with my gf, she told me she had ms. But she seemed fine, and I honestly didn't know too much about ms, so I didn't think it was a big deal... I mean, she wasn't in a wheelchair or anything, right? At first it seemed fine, but looking back, I think there were some episodes... I call them episodes.
My gf when she is really tired, stressed or angry, has these episodes. She acts completely drunk. I mean she can't stand, she can't talk, she says she doesn't recall what happened. I don't mean had a few drinks drunk, I mean downed a 750ml bottle of vodka drunk, even when she had nothing to drink. Other times, she just acts pretty drunk not fully drunk. I talked to an MS hotline, and the person I talked to says that she is unfamiliar with that symptom, although that doesn't mean it's not MS. When she gets this way, she is impossible to be around. She is very hostile, yelling and screaming what an ahole I am, how she hates my family, and all sorts of things. She screams at the window, so all of our neighbors can hear, while she chain smokes. This can go on for hours... at longest was about 12 hours. I stay when she's this way so she doesn't hurt herself, but I can't take it anymore. I can't fully explain what it's like, but when some of our friends saw her this way, they were shocked. She falls down and gets hurt at times, but the verbal abuse is what I can't stand anymore.
At first, I just thought she was drunk. We would have screaming fights where things get thrown, and I tried to kick her out of my house many times, only to feel bad and take it back within a few days. The only way that she doesn't act this way is if she is in bed basically 16 hours a day, and nothing happens to make her upset, stressed or anxious. She used to have aches, and pain, but when she quit her job a couple months ago, most of that went away, but not the episodes.
What I want to find out is if this is a typical MS symptom. I also want to break up. I can't stand living like this. I try to show support and sympathy, but our lives are just sitting around home, me ignoring her while she throws insults at me for no reason, hour after hour, day after day, week after week, month after month, and year after year. I worry what will happen to her if we break up. Where will she go? How will she support herself? all of that stuff. I do care for her, but with every episode, that care and concern gets chipped away and replaced with hate, and anger. Me trying to help her with anything has morphed into me ignoring her during her episodes until she just gets on my nerve saying extremely hurtful thing about my father, my sister, my nephews, my friends, me, and anyone I know. There is no way to talk reason with her... it's like talking reason to a sloppy, falling down drunk person. I walk out of the house, but where am I going to go? I tried going to bars and watching tv until she was hopefully sleeping, but I can only do that so often. I feel really bad that the only way I can describe my feelings for her is hate. Pure hate. When she's acting a little bit like this, my demeanor starts to change as quickly as hers now. I hate looking at her, hearing her voice, seeing her stumble around and everything to do with her. I want nothing to do with her. But again... if I don't take care of her, then who will? I feel trapped which causes more anger. Help!!!
My gf when she is really tired, stressed or angry, has these episodes. She acts completely drunk. I mean she can't stand, she can't talk, she says she doesn't recall what happened. I don't mean had a few drinks drunk, I mean downed a 750ml bottle of vodka drunk, even when she had nothing to drink. Other times, she just acts pretty drunk not fully drunk. I talked to an MS hotline, and the person I talked to says that she is unfamiliar with that symptom, although that doesn't mean it's not MS. When she gets this way, she is impossible to be around. She is very hostile, yelling and screaming what an ahole I am, how she hates my family, and all sorts of things. She screams at the window, so all of our neighbors can hear, while she chain smokes. This can go on for hours... at longest was about 12 hours. I stay when she's this way so she doesn't hurt herself, but I can't take it anymore. I can't fully explain what it's like, but when some of our friends saw her this way, they were shocked. She falls down and gets hurt at times, but the verbal abuse is what I can't stand anymore.
At first, I just thought she was drunk. We would have screaming fights where things get thrown, and I tried to kick her out of my house many times, only to feel bad and take it back within a few days. The only way that she doesn't act this way is if she is in bed basically 16 hours a day, and nothing happens to make her upset, stressed or anxious. She used to have aches, and pain, but when she quit her job a couple months ago, most of that went away, but not the episodes.
What I want to find out is if this is a typical MS symptom. I also want to break up. I can't stand living like this. I try to show support and sympathy, but our lives are just sitting around home, me ignoring her while she throws insults at me for no reason, hour after hour, day after day, week after week, month after month, and year after year. I worry what will happen to her if we break up. Where will she go? How will she support herself? all of that stuff. I do care for her, but with every episode, that care and concern gets chipped away and replaced with hate, and anger. Me trying to help her with anything has morphed into me ignoring her during her episodes until she just gets on my nerve saying extremely hurtful thing about my father, my sister, my nephews, my friends, me, and anyone I know. There is no way to talk reason with her... it's like talking reason to a sloppy, falling down drunk person. I walk out of the house, but where am I going to go? I tried going to bars and watching tv until she was hopefully sleeping, but I can only do that so often. I feel really bad that the only way I can describe my feelings for her is hate. Pure hate. When she's acting a little bit like this, my demeanor starts to change as quickly as hers now. I hate looking at her, hearing her voice, seeing her stumble around and everything to do with her. I want nothing to do with her. But again... if I don't take care of her, then who will? I feel trapped which causes more anger. Help!!!