I agree with Loobie and Sou.
For years I felt I had to keep working fulltime in order to prove to myself that MS hadn't 'won'. I was being stupid. It had won - I wasted 10 years in a state of absolute exhaustion and lost so much. Now I've 'surrendered' to an extent - admitted that I can't work fulltime anymore, or at least until they find something better for MS, and my quality of life has actually improved.
I hate people behaving as if MS was the most terrific thing that happened to them. I think that their lives must had been really miserable before their diagnosis.
Ah yes, the Pollyanna syndrome. It sets my teeth on edge. I think that also maybe their MS tends to be quite mild and hasn't limited their lives to an extent that they realise what an untamed MonSter is like.
But there is a major difference in 'surrender' to fatalistic thinkings about how your MS will evolve, and in adapting to circumstance. Cane - is it a sign of surrender or a clever adaptation? If it helps you get about, lessens fatigue, increases your confidence in walking and has other positive effects, then it is not a sign of surrender. It's the difference between how the media report on people with disabilities like 'wheelchair bound' or 'wheelchair user'. For me, giving up fulltime work was the ultimate sign of surrender and giving up, or so I thought. But I have adapted and no longer see it as that.