My son is 17, and was diagnosed at age 13. I understand totally how you are feeling right now. There is some excellent advice in the posts above, but for yourself, do just exactly what you are doing...Learn all you can. Some of the fear and anxiety will subside as you become more informed. This is a fantastic sight, and there are many others out there. If you would like some more links, private message me and I will send them to you. Take care!