I could have written nenebird's post.
There have been low times where I thought my husband would be better off without me and all this crap from MS, and how it might effect us in the future - money, relationship, our house, even down to the care we choose and where we live etc.. And now I'm looking at my 6 week old son and wondering if he'll have to deal with having a Mum with visible disabilities.....will MS mean my family will be poor if I can't work too?
MS can seem so overwhelming and all the potential problems it might bring, that a partner can test the resolve of the other partner to weather out the tough times.... I know when I've gone through bad times with MS I've offered my husband an "out" if he wanted it, but it's only because I've felt so low about my own worth and having MS. In reality, he needs me as much as I need him, MS or not. And to my astonishment he finds my coeliac condition (gluten free diet) more intrusive in our lives than MS
When I'm having a relapse I'm not at my most logical and suddenly I view myself as this huge burden on everyone, whereas in reality I just need to rest a bit more for a few weeks. End of. Oh and pee a bit more, not hear things, and lose my balance, but it's not THAT bad