You will not make it in a relationship with anyone looking towards physical factors to explain emotional issues.
Many of us here are married to MS'ers. I married Kim after she had recently been shifted from RRMS to SPMS. It's part of her body, but I don't use it as a scapegoat to explain her emotions.
Exception, everyone is allowed a bad day. But we all have them. I might have a bad day because I didn't get parking at the metro and my boss is annoyed with me. Kim might have a bad day because she fell or got frustrated with the boys.
MS can bring you a bad day, but everyone has bad days.
But, personally, reading your post. I think it's about maturity. Not one is right or wrong. But relative maturity. You can both be mature for where you are in life, but not necessarily mature within each others life. Think about it. Ken
It would be really nice to be able to put links in here
If I have included a bad link, google the word "Scholar", click link for "Google Scholar". Search for the name of the paper and author in Google Scholar.