The absolute first thing to do here is to take a deep breath. And do me one favor for the both of you. DO NOT (I know this is hard) take any of these hyper emotional messages in right now; you have plenty of time to see how it's going to shake out after the shock wears off. Lew
I second that statement Lew!
Being a cop, we are used to being society's repairmen. You name the problem, we have the answer and/or can fix it. After all, "There is a solution to everything" so we think...
Being a cop is a hard thing to understand, unless you have done it. Throw MS into the mix and all hell breaks loose in your mind. Especially if he is a Lt. then he has some time on the force. I have 20 years service myself, so I know where his mind is. The yearly physical fitness and shooting terrifies me. BUT, he can try and keep his condition to himself. Not share it with work, cause believe me, they will freak out. I dont know how far along the path he is, conditions wise. The "brain fog" really gets to you as a cop. You need to be sharp as a needle, that is what keeps you comming home everynight...Being on your game. It will be tough, no doubt about it. But he should have 20+ yrs under his belt, and if he can TOUGH IT out for just a little while longer, he should be able to retire. Hopefully thats your situation. But that is where his mood swings are comming from; having a problem with no solution. Soon as he realizes that, and educates himself on the disease, the sooner things will get better. He needs to get on the forum here and do some reading. TIMS was my salvation. Let him know he is not alone, that there are other cops in the same boat... If he ever wants to talk or has any questions, by all means, tell him too hit us up here! Bubba